Sex Questions

At what age do girls start masturbating?
(Helena, 13)

Hi Helena,

There are as many ages to start masturbating as there are ways to have sex. Could you really imagine that every girl started at the same time? Some girls have already started touching themselves by the time they are little girls, and they begin true masturbation by age 11 or 13. Some other girls never touch themselves at all, and some don't have an orgasm when they do it.

Others don't start until they are 20, 30, or 40 years old... In any case, for women masturbation is normally not such a popular sport as for men, nor do they tend to do it as regularly. For example, a woman can masturbate 10 times in a row and then not do it again for six months. We're all different.

How long should intercourse last?
(Javi, 17)

Hi Javi,

Well, this is not a football game where they blow the whistle at 90 minutes. And a referee won't decide if you have to go into over-time. But OK, there are statistics: Spaniards average a miserable 17 minutes per encounter. But to tell the truth, who has a watch next to their bed marking the time? What counts are each person's needs. Some times a quickie can be great, other times the event should last all weekend. In other words: It is not just the duration but above all the quality that matters. Don't forget that sex is more than just penetration. It involves foreplay and even after play and you'll see that the time flies.

Is it possible to get pregnant during your period? If not, how many days before and after are you infertile? Is the "natural" method of birth-control effective?
(Ingrid, 19)

Hi Ingrid,

It's good that you are asking these things. They are very common questions. So that you aren't left with any doubts, a woman definitely can get pregnant if she has sex during her period. It is not an effective method of contraception.

Explanation: An egg's trip through the Falopian tube to the uterus takes about 4 days. During this path it can be fertilized during approximately 6-12 hours.

But a man's semen can survive 3-5 (sometimes up to 7) days in a woman's body and "wait" for the egg. So, the days before menstruation also form part of your fertile period. In the case of an unexpected delay in ovulation, you can get pregnant. "Natural" methods of contraception are not reliable. A safer method to avoid pregnancy is taking the anti-babypill. We recommend that you talk to your gynaecologist about the appropiate method for you. But also keep in mind: The only way to protect you from AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is using a condom. The risk of contracting an STD is much greater during your period.

S.O.S.! Recently my girlfriend has started using her fingers and tongue around my anus. And the truth is I've never enjoyed sex so much - I'm having the most intense orgasms of my life! But after doing it, I worry that I could be gay...
(Alejandro, 21)

Hi Alejandro,

We believe that there´s nothing bad about being gay in the first place. Nevertheless your question is understandable. Because of the the sensations it can produce, the anal region should be considered part of the sexual organs. And this applies to heterosexuals as well as to homosexuals.
We don't know exactly why people feel attracted to people of the same sex. But one thing is certain, it´s not provoked by anal pleasure! Lots of men never try anal stimulation because they associate any kind of anal contact negatively with bad smell or being dirty. On the other hand, there are a lot of people (couples, singles) who give and receive anal stimulation in many different ways... Enjoy!

You've helped me before and I hope you can this time too. I'm very happy with my girlfriend, but unfortunately she almost never cums! She's told me that she only has orgasms with oral sex. My problem is that for some reason I'm too much of an idiot to do it right - unlike her ex-boyfriends. Do you have any advice or techniques for me?
(Marc, 19)

Dear Marc,

We really like that you want to give your girlfriend more pleasure. But like everything having to do with sex, there is no right way to practice oral sex. So we think that the best expert to answer your question is not us but your girlfriend. Instead of rubbing in those stories about how good her ex-boyfriends were, she could teach you how to do it better.

But... to not leave you totally in the dark: most girls prefer that you don't go directly to the clitoris, but around it. One simple rule: Outside is better than in! Just sticking your tongue in doesn't do much and can give you cramps in your mouth... Oh! And don't forget that sex is not a contest. You learn with time and with desire. Good luck!!

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