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It has been a year since I met my best friend. We are really
close. But lately we don't understand each other as well
and we're scared
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that
our friendship is going to fall apart. We know absolutely
everything about eachother, so we don't have much
to say to each other and sometimes it gets boring.
How
can
we refresh our friendship? I can't change best
friends every year!
Nightingale. |
Dear Nightingale,
From what you tell me, it seems like you have
already thought about this problem a lot
and that your friendship is important to you both.
I think it would be helpful if you also talked
to your friend about your fears. I suggest that
you two take some time aside to talk about what each
of
you
wants
from
the other, how you would like your relationship to
be, and what you can do to make it that way. Think
about the things you enjoy doing together, but
also think about the things that you prefer to do alone.
Sometimes, a person wants to do everything
with the other person and only later realizes that
maybe she needs some time to herself or time to be
with other people. This is totally normal. Always doing
everything with the same person can get boring, even
if you like being with that person a lot. The fact
that you see each other less does not mean that you
won't get along any more. On the contrary, it actually
will be a source of new and different things to tell
each other about. Why don't you each try something
new with other people and then tell each other about
it? This way you can maintain your closeness and your
confidence in each other. Good luck from all of us!
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My
boyfriend and I have been going out for one year. He keeps
asking me when we are going to have sex. He says that if
I love him
and trust him, then there should be no problem. But I don’t
feel ready yet and would rather wait a little. Should I have
sex with him to show him I love him? What should I do?
Angela,
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Dear
Angela,
You
should never do anything you don’t feel
ready for and comfortable with. Trust yourself. A lot of
girls go through
this and first and foremost, it is you and your body, and
only you can decide what to do with it. If your boyfriend
truly
loves you then he should respect your
decision
and
not force you to do anything you don’t want to do.
Sit
him down and just explain to him that you don’t
feel ready to move to that level of your relationship and
that it has nothing to do with him personally. He should
understand this and respect your choice. Stand your ground.
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